Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Is True Love Really Blind?


Is true love really blind? That is the question everyone wants the answer to. In a perfect world love should always be blind. You should love someone not for what you can see on the outside, but for how he or she makes you feel on the inside. When you truly, deeply love someone you will be able to see them through faults and all. You should be able to forgive and forget.

You will be able to compromise and settle your differences because of the truth that is your love. Love is the reason that people that have differences are able to find each other and live happily ever after. I have found that it is best to reach for a lover that sees you on the inside as well. Looks fade and attitudes shift, but when you truly love someone you will be able to fall again and again blindly and with haste. There are no rules in love. You can love someone at first sight, you can love someone in a month, or maybe you can't fall for a year...but eventually when you fall whatever your time table is it will be the best fall if it is done blindly and with faith. Faith is the cornerstone of any relationship. You have to have faith in yourself, faith in your partner, and faith in LOVE! Blindly loving someone is the only way to truly love someone. It allows for the possibility of a happily ever after!

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Is Love Making Right Before Marriage?

Positives and Negatives
"Is it ok to have premarital sex?" That is a common question among teens and engaged couples. Perhaps you are in a relationship that is progressing in that direction, but you're not sure what to do. In your mind, you are probably weighing the pros and cons of premarital sex. On the positive side of the scale, there is acceptance from your peers, hope for pleasure, and the fulfillment of sexual desires. The negative side of the scale carries the weights of morals, fear of pregnancy or disease, and guilt. How do these scales balance? What is the right decision? Let's take a look at some of the facts.

Is it Moral?
Morality is a factor for many people when deciding whether or not to have premarital sex. Is it a factor for you? After all, the messages we receive from most TV shows and movies these days tells us "everyone is doing it." In light of today's permissive attitude, your peers may think you're weird to even question it.

But maybe there is something inside you, like a voice in your head, that is making you uncertain about whether or not sex before marriage is a right or wrong action. Many people refer to this voice as their conscience. How can you know if your "conscience" is right? People all around the world look to the Bible as a moral or religious book, so let's see what it says about premarital sex.

The Bible refers to premarital sex as fornication. That's a word we don't hear much these days, so what does it mean? Fornication is sexual intercourse between people who are not married to each other. The only distinction the Bible makes between premarital sex and adultery is that adultery involves married persons while fornication involves those who are unmarried. Premarital sex is just as much of a sin as adultery and all other forms of sexual immorality. They all involve having sexual relations with someone you are not married to.

The Bible explains, "…The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body" (1 Corinthians 6:13). Verse 18 of this chapter goes on to say, "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body." Galatians 5:19 speaks the same, "The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity…" Ephesians 5:3 says it most plainly, "But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." From these verses, we see that the Bible promotes complete and total abstinence from premarital sex.

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Relationship Conflict resolution


1) Stop Blaming – It is absolutely pointless for you to blame yourself or the other. Blame stops you from seeing the truth. While we are engaged in pointing a finger, and making the other feel guilty, we cannot see what is really going on. Blame is a way to keep the fight alive. TAKE A VACATION FROM BLAME FOR ONE DAY. Instead of thinking of all the ways the person has hurt you keep your eyes open to watch how you may be stoking the fires. Focus upon what the person has done for you, instead, the ways in which they have been kind.

2) Realize The Price You Are Paying For These Fights Unless we truly realize the terribly toll fighting is taking on us, we will continue it automatically. Honestly take note of the consequences each fight brings, what it is doing to your body, mind and spirit. Then ask do I truly want this? Haven’t I suffered enough? Why not stop it today?

3) Choose To Be Happy Rather Than Right - You have to become aware that there is a better way to be in a relationship. This is the time to expand your view. Define success as being happy rather than being right. Learn other tools and techniques which will de-escalate anger and make a positive relationship possible for you.

4) Build A Strong Sense of Self-Worth - The basis of all good relationships is a feeling of worthiness, a desire to honor, gift and pleasure yourself, and to do the same for the other. Choose this kind of relationship and let go of all that opposes it.

Friday, May 8, 2009

Is Masturbation Good?


Masturbation. Most people do it — yet so many people worry about doing it! That's because there are a lot of myths out there that masturbation is dirty, dangerous, or something to be embarrassed about doing. But the truth is, masturbation is safe and healthy, and it's here to stay. People of all ages do it. Guys do it, and girls do it too. Single people and people in relationships do it. Some people do it a few times a day, and some do it a few times a year. Let's get to the bottom of some of the masturbation myths that make people so anxious about being caught red-handed.

Myth 1: Masturbation is unhealthy.
Maybe you've heard that masturbation makes you blind or damages your sex organs. This couldn't be further from the truth. Masturbation is not physically harmful in any way. In fact, it has a number of physical and mental health benefits — here are just a few:

Masturbation releases stress and physical tension. Many people masturbate to relax, and it can help some people fall asleep.

Orgasms — whether they're from masturbation or sex play with a partner — can act as a natural painkiller. One study from 2001 found that orgasm can ease migraines faster than medication. Some women masturbate to relieve menstrual cramps. Research has also shown that orgasms may even prevent endometriosis, a disease of the uterine lining.

One recent study found that frequent ejaculation from masturbating may reduce a man's chances of developing prostate cancer.
Plus, masturbation is the ultimate form of safer sex — there is no risk of pregnancy or infection.

Myth 2: Only people who can't "get any" masturbate.
Here's an interesting fact — people who have regular sex partners actually masturbate more often than those who don't. Some people are concerned when they find out their partners masturbate — they wonder, "Why would someone masturbate when they could just have sex? Does this mean that my partner isn't attracted to me?" But many people — both in relationships and single — masturbate when their partners are unavailable. Some use masturbation as a kind of "dress rehearsal," to learn more about what they find pleasurable. People can learn about their bodies through masturbating, and this can help them communicate better with their partners about what they enjoy sexually.

Myth 3: Girls don't masturbate.
Some people think that it's OK for guys to masturbate and have sex, but that girls shouldn't. Unfortunately, our society is often more comfortable with men expressing their sexuality than with women, so many girls are taught not to masturbate — or not to admit to doing it. But the truth is, girls and women do masturbate, and there's no reason they shouldn't. In fact, one study showed that women who masturbate have higher self-esteem than those who don't.

Online Dating; How To Get The Best Men Or Women On Facebook


1. Always let them come to you, don't chase them via email.
2. Block anyone who annoys you instantly.
3. Post the best and most vampish photo you can find.
4. Don't reply to instant messages with clever opening lines.
5. Remain aloof and let yourself be chased.
6. Always reply to emails at least 3 days after receipt.
7. Never provide your real email or phone details.
8. Always date safely and protect yourself at every turn.
9. Make sure your login name is stunning and sexy, as well as enigmatic.
10. Do not login for hours on end. Short, rapid visits are best.
11. Do not assume the person you are talking to is destitute or sad.
12. Never ever reply to emails on weekends. Wait until a weekday.
13. Never state how good your sexual performance is in your profile.
14. If you don't want to date married men, spell it out in your profile.
15. A man who doesn't reply to your email within 3 days should be ignored.
16. Make sure your humor levels come across in text.
17. Do not chat to hundreds of men at once. The delay in replying is a dead giveaway and your Mr. Right will be off.
18. Don't even think about misrepresenting your size or description. They will find out.Come across as cool and sophisticated for best results
19. Ladies, always remember that you are a sexy, desirable woman and the world is your oyster. Always let men do the chasing and always allow yourself to be the chooser.
20. Always stay safe and never risk yourself for the sake of attending a date. 21. Always use a safe dating Website.

Dating Rules


1. Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick with rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage. You are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time.
2. Never reveal information you don't have to. An enigmatic woman drives men wild.
3. Keep dates brief, but your men interested. Less is always more.
4. Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.
4. Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.
Ensure you receive flowers. If he doesn't know what a florist is, dump him.
5. Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
6. Always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady's perogative.
7. Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
8. If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
9. Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
10. Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
11. Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss. Practice on a mirror if you have to.
12. Never ever talk about previous boyfriends, particularly their prowess in the bedroom. Your ex-boyfriends are your business only.
13. Never assume anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.
14. If any man shows the slightest signs of possessiveness or insecurity, run like the wind. Life is too short for boys.
15. If his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, dump him.
16. Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
16. Never ever come across as too available or too desperate. He will run a mile. He is the one doing the chasing.
17. If the guy in the corner is gorgeous, go get him and create the need in him for you. Never wait for men to come to you because you may watch him leave with someone else.
18. You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
19. If you want a child, don't mention it on the first few dates.
20. Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Is sexual intercourse safe during menstrual cycles?


Q. 1) Can sexual intercourse be performed during the menstrual period cycle for women? 2) If yes, can sexual intercourse take place without using condoms because anyway there is no fear of pregnancy. Would blood smearing over private organs be of any problem for male? 3) What is the care and sex position to be followed during menstruation to avoid excess bleeding and pain? 4) What are the days when sexual intercourse can take place for 100% non-pregnancy safety without using any contraceptives? 5) If by mistake we have sex on a non-safe day, what is the easiest and best way out of it? 6) I would love to have anal sex with my wife, but she resists saying it pains, what is the way out of it?

A. 1. There is no restriction on this if both partners are willing.

2. Yes, it can be done without condom as there is no fear of pregnancy. However, a male can contract some infection due to this.

3. Any position that is comfortable to both the partners is OK

4. The golden rule is 1st week (7 days) and last 7 days of a 28 days menstrual cycle are safe. A word of caution though - no method is 100% safe.

5. Contact a gynaecologist immediately for emergency contraception in such a situation.

6. Sex is a matter of agreement between the partners. If your wife does not agree, I would advise you not to insist on it.

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

Love Making In The Morning Is Healthy








NOW we have the perfect excuse to get down to some steamy sex in the morning – it’s good for us.
That’s because sex uses every muscle group in the body and gives the heart and lungs a high-octane aerobic work-out.

It burns around 300 calories an hour.

And a good session at least three times a week boosts the heart, halving the risk of a heart attack or stroke, a study at Queen’s University in Belfast has discovered.

They say regular sex also boosts circulation and keeps down blood pressure.

Sex twice a week is the perfect COLD CURE as it boosts IgA – the immune system’s first line of defence, according to a study in New Scientist.



Morning glory ... AM romps

But don’t overdo it – sex more than three times a week LOWERS our defences.

Moments before orgasm, levels of the feelgood hormone oxytocin surge and flood the body with powerful endorphins.

These natural painkillers help ease everything from arthritis to migraine.

A steamy session also means we feel less stressed as it inhibits production of the hormone cortisol.

And, because it provides a calorie-burning work-out and helps maintain a healthy weight, it will reduce your risk of diabetes too.

An American study of 300 sexually active women whose partners did not use condoms found they were less likely to have depression.

Researchers think that is because they absorb the hormone prostaglandin, which is only found in sperm.

But do not try this if you are not in a stable relationship – a sexually transmitted infection is a recipe for depression.

An orgasm will release a surge of oestrogen, which can relieve the pain of PMS.

Monday, May 4, 2009

Waist To Hip Ratio, WHR





For centuries, three body parts - breasts, waist and thighs - are more often referred to as beautiful than other body parts.

Waist-hip ratio or Waist-to-hip ratio (WHR) is the ratio of the circumference of the waist to that of the hips. It is calculated by measuring the waist circumference (located just above the upper hip bone) and dividing by the hip circumference at its widest part (waist/hip). The ratio is applied both to women and men.

One such 'attractive' physical attribute of women that positively correlates in to an indicator of child bearing ability and healthiness is relative waist to hip ratio. Men are observed to 'biologically' prefer women with a striking hour glass figure (a small waist to hip ratio) since these physical features of a woman are what is considered the most salient indicators of her ability to procreate.I wonder how valid this mode of classification of women based on an attractive physical trait such as the relative contours of her waist and hip really is. The 'Barbie doll' contours of women's bodies that both men and biologists rank as significant attributes of fertility, youth and health could be dominant hegemonic categorization of beauty that is inextricably linked to applying a universal standard to the classification of female beauty which does not take into account of increased diversity and cultural variances.

Can Money Buy Love?

Men like to have next to them sexy women who attract all the looks on them. In change women have money to afford expensive clothes, cars and holidays in Hawaii. From the very beginning they agree on the terms of the settlement to avoid future problems and their marriages are quite successful. This is one of the many cases when money can buy love.

You can't know for sure but maybe at one point the two can really fall in love with eachother and we can say that now love has won the fight.

On the other hand there are many stories about women who gave up their real loves just to get married to a rich man, to have a safe future and never worry about what she will do the next day.

When you sell your soul to the devil for a comfortable house and a smart car you know you will never be completely happy. You can't have it all. What comes around always comes back. So if you hurt someone you have to know for sure you will never be happy as you are not with the person you really loved.

For me love is the most powerful feeling that draws two persons together, maybe for the rest of their lives. You can't stain the purity of this feeling with money or luxury. If you love someone you can live even in a hut and be extremely happy. A mansion full of servants doesn't make you the queen of the world and neither Prince Charming is waiting for you in a Ferrari in front of the house.

Love is something you cherish, while money is just paper. Nonething can buy love unless its not real love. When you have a loved one don't let anything get in the way of tearing the love apart.

Of course we all want 1 million dollars, but would you trade it for love? If you really loved someone you wouldn't trade the love in for nonthing. So to come to my conclusion money can't buy love.

Sunday, May 3, 2009

Love Making Fore Play

Pre-Play Foreplay
Why wait to be in your partner's arms to initiate a sexual romp? Let the foreplay begin on your drive home. Call your lover and start telling a hot story filled with sensual and sexy details about how you felt all day thinking about having a passionate, steamy encounter with them. Above all, express that you can hardly wait to see and touch them. It will get your partner excited before you ever lay eyes on them. Inquire about the clothing your partner is wearing; you might even ask for all clothing to be removed by the time you get home! After all, what are cell phones for, if not to initiate important appointments? Use yours to indulge in some pre-foreplay and you'll make a sexy night together last even longer.

Shower Your Senses
Showering before sex doesn't just get you clean; it prepares your body for ecstasy. Showering warms and loosens muscles (great for flexibility), clears your nasal passages, thereby enhancing your sense of smell (think pheromones), and increases your circulation so that your body is more receptive to touch. (Good blood flow is a key to sexual responsiveness.) Want to make your pre-sex shower even more satisfying? Make it part of foreplay. Invite your partner to bathe with you and rub one another down with a sensual bath oil or aromatic bath gel.

Make Foreplay a Breeze
Believe it or not, even air can be used as an erotic tool--a particularly enticing one during hot summer nights. Have your lover strip down to their birthday suit and lie flat on the bed with their eyes closed. (You might even want to blindfold them.) Then, use your breath or a small, handheld fan to blow on them gently, moving from erogenous zone to erogenous zone. Soon enough, they're likely to be begging for your touch.

Savor Sweet Sensations
Consider the erotic possibilities of produce. Fruit is delicious and sensual, whether you and your partner share an erotic snack, place a morsel in your mouths to sweeten a kiss, or lightly rub juicy pieces over one another’s bodies to lick off. Try feeding your lover a succulent strawberry or a ripe piece of mango at the end of a romantic dinner and see where it leads!

Undressed and Impressed
Try a new twist on an old favorite: Perform a unique striptease dance for your lover. First, impose a strict look-but-don’t-touch rule. (Using soft wrist restraints on your partner will help.) Then, as you disrobe, erotically remove articles of clothing from them, as well. Do this until you are both naked and ready for more action. You may or may not want to remove their restraints!

Mix Up Your Massages
Massage is a wonderful, intimate way to be romantic with your partner, but even massages can become routine. So mix it up! One time touch your partner using only soft, feather-light strokes over every inch of their body. Another time, use different, oiled parts of your body -- like your forearms, chest, and thighs -- to caress and rub your partner. You can even make massage a game, choosing the strokes and body parts, and different massage oils.

Get in the Zone
First, ask your partner to pick a favorite non-genital erogenous zone on their body (nape of neck, back of knee, earlobes, hands, tummy, etc.). Then, for the next 24 hours, lavish special attention on that one spot or zone. Try caressing it, kissing it, blowing on it, rubbing ice on it -- get creative! The goal is to see just how heated up you can make each other throughout the day. This will lead to some really intense sex by evening.

Sexy Scavenger Hunt
On your next big date night with your partner, tantalize them with a playful adult scavenger hunt! Hide your sex toys and other racy treats around the house and give your lover clues on where to find them. To add some fun to the game, you might want to shed a piece of clothing each time they find something you’ve hidden. But let them know they can’t get their real prize until they’ve found the very last one. As for what that prize is, we'll leave that to your imagination!

Daring Strip Poker
If you’re in a frisky mood, try playing a game of strip poker (or rummy or gin) with your partner. When you’ve both lost all of your clothes, dare each other to do silly tricks in the buff. For instance, you could dare your naked partner to do a headstand, cartwheel or jumping jacks, or attempt to give you an erotic belly or hula dance. You’re both sure to have a good laugh. Laughing with each other while naked can help boost your body confidence and is a great erotic mood enhancer. Try getting naked together with Poker for Lovers.

X Marks the Spot
The next time you and your lover are together, each take a piece of paper and draw a picture or outline of your body on it (even if it’s a stick figure!). Then, mark an X on every spot you want your lover to touch, lick or kiss. When you’re both done, trade papers. Now you have an erotic treasure map that you can use to explore your partner’s body.

Heighten Your Senses
Expanding the range of sensations that you’re open to can really heighten what you experience during sex. One way you and your partner can experiment with this idea is by taking turns blindfolding one another and having each other taste a number of different foods. Choose a range of foods that are very different. Some should be salty, some should be sweet and some should even be bitter. Tasting one food after another without knowing what to expect will make each flavor more intense. If you and your partner like this experience, you can also try it using different scents (like peppermint, lemon and floral scents) or sounds (from beating drums to the sound of your breath in their ear).

Be Daring and Delicious
Surprise your lover by placing a drop of flavored oil, gel or nipple balm somewhere on your body that you know your lover will lick during foreplay. Once the action starts, watch your lover’s face as they taste this unexpected treat. Chances are, they’ll soon be searching your body for more!

Erotic Produce
Fruit is delicious and sensual, whether sharing an erotic snack, rubbing it lightly over your lover's body or licking the juice off of select body parts. Try freezing some grapes and using them like an ice cube (just be sure not to choke on them!).

Chill 'em Out
Run an ice cube over your lover's body while it melts before sex! They'll get the chills, and then you can warm them up.

Friday, May 1, 2009

Vaginal Discharge

Is vaginal discharge normal?
Yes. Glands inside your vagina and cervix make small amounts of fluid. This fluid flows out of the vagina each day, carrying out old cells that have lined the vagina. This is your body's way of keeping your vagina healthy and clean. The discharge is usually clear or milky and doesn't smell bad.

The color and thickness of the discharge change with your monthly cycle. The discharge is thicker when you ovulate (when one of your ovaries releases an egg), when you breastfeed or when you're sexually excited.

What changes may be a sign of a problem?
Changes that may signal a problem include an increase in the amount of discharge, a change in the color or smell of the discharge, and irritation, itchiness or burning in or around your vagina. This is called vaginitis. A discharge that's stained with blood when you're not having your period could also be a sign of a problem. If you have any of these signs, you should talk to your doctor.

Tips on preventing vaginitis
1.After using the toilet, always wipe from front to back. This may help prevent getting bacteria from your rectal area into your vagina.
2.Wear cotton underpants during the day. Cotton allows your genital area to "breathe." Don't wear underpants at night.
3.Avoid wearing tight pants, pantyhose, swimming suits, biking shorts or leotards for long periods.
4.Change your laundry detergent or fabric softener if you think it may be irritating your genital area.
5.The latex in condoms and diaphragms and the sperm-killing gels that are used for birth control can be irritating for some women. If you think one of these things is a problem for you, talk to your doctor about other types of birth control.
6.Avoid hot tubs.
7.Bathe or shower daily and pat your genital area dry.
8.Don't douche.
9.Avoid feminine hygiene sprays, colored or perfumed toilet paper, deodorant pads or tampons, and bubble bath.

Cover Those Marrital Graves

This article is mainly for women. It talks about some errors committed by women in their homes. Let us look at some of these errors and learn to correct them for a happy marital life.

Make Out Time For Domestic Responsibility
Take out time and prepare a meal time table for your family. The quality of the meal will depend on how much you can spare and your priority. No matter the challenges to face, do not play with good and quality meals. This is good for the growth and development of your young children as well as their health. Make sure you give your husband the kind of food he wants to eat at all time. Take good care of your children. Let their welfare be your primary concern. Make sure their cloths are washed regularly and keep them neat at all time.

Be Submissive To Your Husband
Your husband is the head of the family and must be respected by you. You have to be totally submissive to him. Make him feel proud as the head of the home. This does not mean you have to accept all that he says and wants. If you feel certain things are not supposed to be done and accepted in the home, calmly sit him down and state good reasons why you feel such things are not good or needed at home. Avoid nagging because men love women who do not nag at all even when they are under distress or in extremely hard situation.

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Best Time To Make Love


Wake me up at the crack of dawn looking for sex, and I’m likely to ignore you, or yell at you—and not in a dominatrix type of way. To put it mildly, I’m not a morning person—or, rather, I’m up for “morning sex,” if 11:59 a.m. counts as “morning.” But others have different ideas on the matter, so I asked my friends what time of the day equals sexytime for them.

Photographer The Lovely Brenda says she’ll do it anytime, but the morning is her favorite: “I love to wake up next to Aaron and his raging c***, as the warm sunlight pours through the wooden blinds. To climb on top, feel him between my legs, and stick my nose between his beard, ear, and pillow, so that I can smell and hear him in my left ear drives me wild. It leaves me with thoughts that I can jerk off to for the rest of the day when I’m alone at home, working at my computer while he’s away.”

Searah Deysach, owner of Chicago sex toy store Early to Bed, prefers the middle of the day. “Sex in the late afternoon is always my first choice. In the morning I just need to get out of the house as soon as possible and at night I’m often too tired. In the afternoon you don’t have to worry about waking the neighbors, and you don’t have to turn on any lights but can still see all you need and want to. Plus, I always get a burst of energy after, so it’s good to have time to make use of that.”

Graphic designer Sinclair likes to get it on at night. “Getting off is such a nightcap for me, for some reason. Something about the ritual of getting undressed and getting in bed anyway makes it a perfect excuse. And I sleep better after an orgasm or two.”

In Alison Tyler’s erotica anthology Afternoon Delight, each story focuses on a specific time of day when characters get busy, making for round the clock screwing. Taylor says that “every hour is worth trying,” but afternoons are her favorite time for f***ing. “They revamp my whole attitude for the day. I’m also partial to #### right before we go out so that we have a little bit of a secret nobody else knows. That is, until we tell them what put the flush on my cheeks and the spark in Sam’s eyes.”

I don’t have a preference for morning, afternoon, or night sex. In recent years, it’s been about taking what I can get, rather than being picky about when it happens. Sex before work can feel rushed. Afternoons are out for me—unless you count text flirting and dropping naughty hints via email. But on weekends I like lounging in bed for as long as possible. Some weekday nights I’ll get a second wind—if there’s a good enough reason.

More often than not, the best sex isn’t planned—it’s spontaneous. When do you think is the best time for sexytime?

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

When Is The Right Time To Get Married


There were these two friends I met. They sat gazing at eachother. They gave each other syrupy smiles and squeezed each other tightly. "Well, how old are you?" I asked. "I'm twenty," he said, "and she is eighteen." "But why does age really matter anyway?" the young man chimed in. "We love each other, and we're right for each other. Everything in our hearts tells us we should be together."

So how old should two people be when they marry? That depends on many factors-maturity level, ability to earn a living, progress in education, and so on. But we can say for sure that, statistically, marriages seem to be much more stable when they begin no earlier than the mid-twenties. As a matter of fact, a recent study indicates that the most stable marriages of all have a "starting date" of twenty-eight years of age. Divorce rates are lowest for men and women who marry for the first time at age 28 or later. The chances for a stable marriage increase as both partners reach the age of 30 and then the rates level off".

The divorce rate for those who marry at twenty-one or twenty-two is exactly double the divorce rate for those who marry at twenty-four or twenty-five. Self-identity has to be the reason. Sometimes the self-identifying task takes even longer than twenty-five years. It's not uncommon for two middle-aged persons to marry with little understanding of who they are as individuals. When your identity process is well developed - when you are clearly in touch with the person you truly are - the task of selecting the right marriage partner becomes significantly easier.

Sunday, April 26, 2009

They Mean So Much To Men And Women

There are certain important things that you must do to keep your marriage healthy. These rules include;

Gifts Of Flowers
From time immemorial, flowers have been considered the language of love. They do not cost much but are highly valued when given to mates. You must not wait till Valentine days and seasons to present gifts. Pick up flowers on the way and give to your mate. Experiment this and see how it works.

Constant Contacts
You must make out time for your mate. Sit close and hold him or her. Talk to each other heart to heart. Hug your mate whenever you return from work no matter how tired you may be.

Regular Calls
This shows your mate that you love and remember him or her. It also shows that your mate’s happiness and welfare is dear, and very near to your heart. The more frequent your calls, the stronger the bond between the two of you. Always remember to end every call with lovely words such as “I miss you, I love you and many more.

Birthday Anniversaries
One of the feminine mysteries is that women attach a lot of importance to birthdays and anniversaries. While the average man can blunder through life without memorizing many date. Make sure you do not forget to surprise your mate with abundant gifts on his or her birthdays and anniversaries.

Too many people underestimate the value of these small every day attention. Do you know that even a simple thing as a woman calling her man at work to say “I just called to know how you are doing “, ending with “I love and miss you” would help him to withstand the pressure from other women outside because he will be so emotionally bond to you to an extent that a strange woman may not easily break.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Close Of Work Affair



Alone in the office, or just like being risky? Bring over your sexiest someone to try something a little different from your boring bedroom sexual activity

So it's another late night in the office. All of my co-workers have gone home. My mind starts wandering a bit while I continue to work. A dirty hip-hop song comes on, the kind I grew up with, about a particular rapper having the "magic stick."
Suddenly, a friend messages me, someone a little long distance. We chat normally, but I do know how damn sexy he his, and it gets me to thinking... this is the perfect time for office sex. I've figured out there are about 9 places to try this:

1.Desk:

A classic idea. Must be sturdy, though... that is, if the guy knows what he's doing.

2.Swivel Chair:
Comfortable like crazy. And it twists, must I say any more?

3.Floor:
There must be a clean spot somewhere... a bit cold, though.

4.Sofa:
Why is it so damn comfortable? I know it's not for the people who sit there a grand total of 10 minutes waiting for an interview.

5.Stairs:


Probably the best for those short-tall couples. This way, the shorter one can go up higher to a more suitable level for the taller one.

6.Kitchenette:

The counter, definitely. Sit on the slab of marble and let the guy stand.

7.Bathroom:
A classic idea for those who think they're "kinky." Yet, still a goody, considering it offers the most privacy.

8.Roof:
Seriously, does anyone ever go out on the roof at your job ? The only risk you have is being seen from the building next door that's a few floors higher.

9.Wall:

This can be a little tough to maneuver... but not if the man lifts you, then he only works a little bit harder.

10.Resting On Desk:
This is a comfortable method. The women would relax well on the table with arms while the man stands on his feet and comes into her from behind.

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Love And Relationship Science

How we fall in love may be the hardest human behavior to explain. It is a fact that no one can measure or estimate love. It can come in various forms, hot, cold or scalding. Read on and know some human response to love and how good or discomforting it could be.

People Like Certain Things They See Or Hear
Humans are suckers for pretty things and lots more. Most men prefer women with large breast and a low waist to hip ratio which they perceive as a sign of fidelity. Most women like men with muscular bodies and a full beard. They later associate them with a sign of and a healthy flow of virility –introducing testosterone (a male sex hormone). Men with deeper voices are perceived naturally as having a high level of testosterone level and in one study were shown to have more children, suggesting that women respond to the way they sound.

The Lure Of Smell
Humans naturally respond to olfactory cues like all other animals. The menstrual cycle of women living together often synchronize, sometimes that is probably governed by scent. In the same way, men seem able to detect when women are ovulating – and thus are more fertile – and will behave more solicitously towards them during those times. Many women have reported that their men are more loving, attentive, and significantly, more jealous of other men during their ovulation period.

When Sex Becomes Love
Just been attracted to someone does not mean that that person is attracted back to you. A few things drive us crazy that we can not help but keep chasing something that is not meant for us.

At the moment of a kiss alone, there is a rich exchange of postural, physical and chemical information. Culturally, customs that warn against sex at first date may have emerged for such practical reasons as avoiding pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases but are also there for tactical reasons. Men or women who volunteers their babymaking services too freely and cheaply are not often valued in the long run. While those who seem more discerning are more likelier to be respected more. Immediately you start having early sexual intercourse, your eyes may become blind in that relationship. At times you begin to feel good without knowing that it is your brain that is making you feel so and not the attributes and qualities of your mates whom you are having sexual relationship with. Indeed, these attributes and qualities are values you should first search for before been distracted by sex.

When Love Dies
Love could become so strong but yet it is still indestructible. People who meet under some influences such as alcohol or drugs or in a state of high excitement, may cool off when their bodies return to baseline. Rejection activates some regions of the brain that controls addiction, which is why it can be hard to quit someone even after the person has quit you. The spurned lover who grows angry or needy can push the other person even further away which accelerates the split and may actually help both parties.

Many romantic relationships do not deliver goods. For all the joy it promises, it can also play us for fools, particularly when it convinces us that we have found the right person, only to upend our expectations later.

True Aim Of relationship
Happily, romance need not to come to ruin. Even irrational animal like us would have quit trying if the bet did not pay off sometimes. The eventual goal of many couples is to pass beyond serial dating into what is called companionate love. However, nearly all successful relationship must settle to cool. This is a hard truth but it is a comforting one. I will call it a smooth transition from a strong to a stablier state which you paid with the solidity you have built over the years.

Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Maintaining Commitments In Marriage


What Is Commitment In Marriage?Commitment is a sense of duty that brings happiness to a marriage and helps to bind the marriage together. A couple may remain committed to their marriage because of their children or because of a duty they feel towards their Almighty creator. Certainly, such motives are admirable and will help a marriage survive difficult times. But to be truly happy, marriage mates need to feel more than just a sense of obligation to each other.

Commitment can therefore be likened to the mortar that binds the bricks of a sturdy house. Mortar is made from a combination of sand, cement and water. Similarly, commitment is formed from a combination of such factors such as duty, trust and friendship. Such a bond built on these three factors can not be easily broken.

What Are The Challenges In Marriage?
Commitment requires hard work and self sacrifice. It demands that you will be willing to forgo your own preferences in order to please your mate. Only a few selfish people can maintain their marriage because of poor or lack of sacrifice. Without commitment, a relationship will sour no matter how sweet the romantic feeling were when the couples first fell in love. Unfortunately, even marriage mate who normally are unselfish do not always acknowledge each others anxieties or value their mate’s sacrifices. When a couple fail to show appreciation to each other, their marriage is bond to cause them more.

How To Strengthen Commitment In Marriage
Make Your Marriage A Priority
A man should honour his wife and a wife should respect her husband and take him as the head of the family no matter if she is the bread winner. Usually, the more important an endeavour, the more time spent on it. This means that you should spend much time with your mate. Do specific things to reassure him or her that you are still good friends. This will ensure your mate that you are still committed to the union.

Avoid All Forms Of Infidelity
Think back how you would have felt if your boyfriend or girlfriend was having sexual intercourse with another person. I know it is very bitter and hard to bear. How then will you feel if your husband or wife is involved in such an act? Infidelity in marriage is the worst blow to the union, one that can give the grounds for divorce.

Has your heart fooled you? Ask you self; To whom am I most attentive to – my spouse or some other member of the opposite sex? To whom do I share good news first – my spouse or someone else?

If you find yourself attracted to someone other than your mate, limit your contact with that one to only what is necessary and keep all encounters on a purely professional level. Do not focus on ways on way in which you think this person is superior to your mate. Instead focus on your mate’s positive qualities. Recall the reasons why you fell in love with your mate. Ask yourself, ‘has your mate really lost these qualities or I have I become blind to the due to circumstances?’

Also ask yourself , ‘what activities could I cut back on to allow more time for my mate, and what could I do to assure my mate that I am committed to the marriage?’

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Ways To Attract And Seduce A Man


Ways to Seduce A Man – 5 Seduction Techniques To Attract Any Man. Is there any man that you’d like to have a relationship with? If your ideal man isn’t attracted to you yet, don’t worry. In this article, I’ll reveal 5 proven (and sexy) ways to seduce a man. Men are flattered when they know they’re being seduced, but you have to be careful not to be too aggressive. So just take it easy and apply these 5 hot ways to seduce a man:


Choose the Right Place and Atmosphere.

You’ll have a tough time seducing a man if there are distractions all around you. Select a quiet and romantic place where there are no (or at least few) people. An ideal situation would be having a candle-lit dinner in a private resort, but it can be any place as long as there are minimal distractions.

Put Him Under A Spell With Your Smell.

Pick a sensual perfume that will arouse his senses. If you can, ask suggestions from a male friend, as he knows what type of smell will attract someone like him. You may also want to try herbal aphrodisiacs like jasmine, rose and ylang ylang.

Exude Your Confidence.

Men don’t like women who have low self-esteem. Maintain a straight posture, with chest out. Walk confidently; don’t look down while walking.

One great way to seduce a man and boost your confidence is to wear clothes that make you feel sexy yet comfortable. If you’re not confident with your body figure, you may want to engage in an exercise or fitness program.

Get a new look. If you wear glasses, try to see if contact lenses make you look younger and better. On the other hand, some people look attractively smarter with certain kinds of glasses. Try a new, bolder hairstyle. Looking better will make you feel more self-assured.

Give Subtle Hints With Your Eyes.

Look at him for a few seconds with seductive eyes. When he looks at you, you can look downward or sideward while smiling. Then look at him again and repeat the process. This female body language signal is one of the most effective ways to seduce a man. It will give him the impression that you’re very much into him.

Unleash The Seductive Power of Touching.

You know how another's touch makes you feel good. When someone hugs you or puts his arms around your shoulder, you feel a certain kind of bond or comfort with that person. You can use this to your advantage.

Most men don’t have any issues when touched by females on any body part, unlike females where there are "unsafe spots" that men can’t touch.

Come up with witty excuses to touch him. When he says something amusing, you can touch him as if it’s a "natural" thing to do. Maybe you can fix his hair or tidy up his shirt because you want him to look his best.

Apply these 5 amazing ways to seduce a man and have a romantically great time.

Who else wants discover amazing ways to seduce a man? You can easily attract the opposite sex with covert persuasion and seduction techniques.

Monday, March 2, 2009

Facts about relationships


Relationships are an integral part of human nature. They can be a source of love, pleasure and fulfilment. However, at any stage of your life if they go wrong they can cause a great deal of anguish and can have a devastating and wide-reaching effect.

Problems in relationships don't always have to mean splitting up or divorce. With guidance, there is often a way to repair and make changes so your relationship can grow and develop.

Sometimes marriages or relationships come to a natural end and can leave little impact, but it can be a difficult experience if they end in separation or divorce in spite of your best efforts. However even if the end of a relationship seems disastrous, it can sometimes be the start of a wiser and more confident you - ready for new challenges and experiences.